How to BOOST Your Confidence [Tips & Tricks]

Not many people know behind my loudness and cheerful behavior I have an issue; I am a loner.  Every time I am in a crowded place I will feel like a stranger there, usually I will remove myself from the circle, stand alone then staring at them like watching a movie. While other people feel uncomfortable having dinner alone at a restaurant, I have no problem sitting on a chair alone while eating my delicious food. Realized that this is a weird habit, I tried to find the reason why I became a loner like now. Can you guess what the main reason is? Confidence, yes it is the main reason lead to many sub-reasons like shy, uncomfortable and feel underestimated. Finding my confident feeling is not that easy, I often had fights with my own self and had to lose my egoism, you know how hard it is to lose your ego.

After found the main reason of my weird habit, I try to find the solution and I practice it every time, even until now. Luckily I have supportive surroundings which help me to practice all of the tricks without any one notice it. Here, I want to share my tricks to develop my confidence so that it is not only me who get enlightenment (?) in life HEHEHE :P

P.S: Basically, these are all cliché tricks that always echoed whenever we talk about self-confident.

I.    Love Yourself

To be confident I realize that the very first step is to love myself and these are the tricks I do to show my love.

a.       Find my best, not worst.

It is only need few seconds to find pimples, dark spots or large pores on my face but take ages to realize that I have natural perfect-shaped eyebrows. 

Try to find your  best not only on your appearance but everything. It could be your voice, ability, warm-heart, creativity or skill, whatever thing on you can be your best.

By finding your best means you can see the positive side of yourself. My friend once said that what people see in you is the reflection of your mind, you don’t have to tell the world that you are best, you only need to think you are then the world will see J

b.      Improve my talent

I believe every person God has made in this world is given at least one talent and it is different from one to another. Try to seek your talent then try to develop and improve it. When you know you have talent, you will feel you have something to share with others.

I thought I does not have any talent in writing, I love it but, you know, I underestimated myself. In junior high school, I started write an endless novel with pathetic dramatic plot; one character death, then come one character but he is death, after that a new character come...and it is stuck in the circle, I can't finish it and now I lose the draft. 

In my senior high school I entered Language program class and now, I study in English Letters department and those courses are always related to writing. I doubted that I have this talent for many time, but looking at the fact that everything I do is always related to writing, I finally realized that this is my path.

If it is your talent, you will always have one desire to do it over and over again. Even though you ever stop it, but in the end you will do it again or even improve it. Also, the universe is like conspire to help you to meet your talent (even if you hate it, probably).

 If you have find your talent, go on and improve it then share it so it is not only you who feel blessed!

c.       Admit the imperfection(s)

We live in an imperfect world and nothing is perfect here. Every person must have been faced to a situation when they will look imperfect, clumsy, unstylish or too much, even a beautiful creature like the Hollywood stars sometimes wear improper dress on the red carpet, right?

I am done with mocks, I eat it since I was a kid. Back then, I forced myself to prove that I am perfect, but it was useless because nothing is perfect, I lost my character instead. Now, reflect to the past, I try to accept myself better or worse. It was very hard at first to admit my mistakes, my imperfections and my flaws, but when I succeeded I felt relieved. There's a quote from Indonesian children song from a movie Petualangan Sherina that I always keep in mind.

"Setiap manusia di dunia pasti punya kesalahan, tapi hanya yang pemberani yang mau mengakui. (Every person in this world must have mistakes, but only those who are brave who want to admit it)"

I know this a hard thing to do; try to admit if you have mistake or wear unmatched dress or apply too much make up, once you can do it people have no right to criticizes you.

d.      Treat myself (body, face, hair)

You need me-time, you need treatment. Go to salon to have body spa or hair spa at least once a month or you can do it yourself at home, like I do. 

Being a university student with no part-time job makes me have to depend on my parents in everything, including money. I like to do like-a-princess-DIY-treatment when I get stressed with tasks and assignments because I don't have enough money to do treatment at salon.

I start this DIY treatment with cleaning my face with milk cleanser, I use Viva Lemon (or Cucumber) Milk Cleanser then wash it with Clean n Clear Essentials Foaming Facial Wash. After that I applying Viva Peeling Cream then with circular motion I peel all my dead-skin cells and dirt on my face. Then, I like to massage my face following Bubzbeauty’s trick before applying facial mask. Done with face then I move to my body.

I like to scrub my body with natural scrub and mask which was sent by my aunt from South Borneo. It is a powder scrub so I have to blend it with water first then gently rub it onto my body skin. I also love to massage my body while applying this scrub.

Done with face and body, I will go to the bathroom then take a bath with warm water. I like to wash my hair then applying hair mask then leave it while I brush my teeth and clean my face and body. Then I wash my hair, not to forget to splash it with a cool water to keep its shine. Leaving the bathroom, I do the final part of the treatment with applying Viva Face Tonic Lemon (or Cucumber) and Clean n Clear Essentials Moisturizer on my face and Viva Hand and Body Lotion with Yoghurt on my body.

After doing this treatment, I usually feel beautiful and it automatically enhance my self-confident J

II.    Love the Surroundings

As a loner I also know that I live in this world with many people in my surroundings, therefore besides loving myself I also try to love the people, environment, nature, animal and everything around me.

                                                      

a.       Be Clean

A clean room, house, garden, office will bring a good mood for the owner or, even those who see it. I am a lazy person, I admit it, but I always try to keep my room clean and tidy so when my girl friends want to come I feel confident because I know they will feel comfortable in my room.

b.      Care others

I don’t usually like to give money for those in need because I afraid the money will be used to buy cigarette or liquor, I prefer give them food or drink, or things they need. Every time I can share what I have for those in need, I will feel very proud of myself and it will make me confident because I have done something good for others.

c.       Smile J

Spread the smile and you’ll be loved! Smiling sincerely will give me a happy feeling and happy feeling will always make me feel confident.

So, those are my tricks to be confident. I still learning to be sociable and with those tricks, I find a big difference in me. At least I will not feel insecure or underestimated anymore when I am in the crowd or talk to people.

I hope those tricks will help you also to be confident in your own way. Thank you so much for visiting and reading my blog, God bless you!

p.s: My dog, Bunder is now hospitalized at Rumah Sakit Hewan Prof. Soeparwi, Yogyakarta because he was poisoned. Please, send your pray for Bunder so he will be recovered and will join us at home soon J 

Your pray means a lot for Bunder and of course, my family! Thank you :)

Cheers,

~eschilla